Undermining Parents

Nov 08, 2017

To the Editor:

I read with interest your article about Sex, etc. I have a fifth-grader who will attend Pinelands Junior High in the near future. I totally support Peter and Theresa Cardillo’s objection to this and other similar media being available in the school’s media center.

Schools were meant to instruct children in math, English, history, etc., not to replace parents. Different families instruct their children in different ways according to their social views and the child’s maturity. This is not a “one size fits all” matter. This would also extend to their health education classes, which are not sex education classes.

My son has been fully informed regarding sexual activity, and my emphasis has been that it is a special bond between two people who have a long-term relationship and are in love. Most certainly it is not for a “hookup,” as this magazine is promoting.

I also have three older sons. They can readily tell you their arguments on various subjects regarding “everyone is doing it” have never held any validity with me. I would often reply, “If everyone jumps off a bridge, are you going to do that too?” followed by “be a leader, not a follower.”

As parents we have a tough enough job guiding our children without the school actually undermining our efforts. To the parent who said, “It’s all available online,” that is true, which is why there are parental control apps for children’s phones, iPads or computers. This is the same line of thought that the film industry used to rate movies. Just because material is “available” doesn’t mean as a parent you have to accept it.

In New Jersey, the age of consent is 16 between two minors, with no more than four years between them. I think the school promoting this kind of media is definitely contributing to the delinquency of a minor by trafficking written child pornography. If that type of media is available when my child reaches Pinelands Junior High, or even Pinelands High School, I would have no problem initiating a suit against the district.

Kate Goode

Little Egg Harbor


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